Being lonely now isn't about wanting to be in love, though I would like that, or about a social life because I'm fairly introverted, but I'd like someone I could trust and rely on who would want to take care of me sometimes, someone who would not have so many problems that they could be a true partner and friend. My advice is yes proceed with divorce but please fix yourself before even looking at another man. There were never a lot said by him as far as I love you or that type of thing. While I doubt that I will ever get married again, I did not go into the marriage with these reservations. Once the baby comes, hopefully your new family will go into a new direction.
I've been in therapy three times specifically because I wanted to figure out how to proceed and what to do and to see if it was my problem that I was feeling so unhappy- or if it really was the marriage driving me nuts. If you can relate to me write back. In all honesty I sometimes feel like I am molesting someone and I then have a hard time finishing - my wife cannot even tell me one thing that turns her on and I do not know how to turn her on - my wife always has excuses, she will say an excuse and then do something that contradicts being to tired, or busy etc. I appreciate the thoughtfulness of the article by the Dr and the supportive ideas and comments of other posters. She followed me to the new non denominational church I ended up at, but she never really talks about having any born-again moment.
I think it has to do with control and how the culture views winning in a relationship. You all should check it out. It's unfortunate that single people have to watch someone brag about their lives in the end they will be alone. If you don't have a social life now, you will be even more lonely when you divorce. Isolation has reached epidemic proportions in the most intimate of human relationships. I am completely unfulfilled, I am very lonely and this lack of intimacy is disabling us from having a closeness in every day life.
. If you are lonely within marriage the solution according to Guy Wench is obvious, go crawl up the butt of your spouse. She took a demanding job, and he was promoted in his. God will not sit by idle if you are relentless. Maybe that's why she lost the attraction.
M house wife stay at home enjoy doing dishes washing clothes vacuuming. Maybe your wife then can get on some medicine or seek the counseling she needs. Why put a chastity belt on the man? But he's blowing it, no I won't stray, I'm a devoted wife, but he's got everything a man would want in a woman and he's just taking it all for granted. I'm not at all trying to minimize your situation, but, I swear I posted a very similar post to yours just a few days ago. What I don't want to do is end up miserable and on welfare.
God has made marriage for man;man was not made for marriage. Whenever I go out or meet his friend all say m beautiful. Another option is the whole family comes over, but not sure if that's do-able given the dynamics you've described. She married me out of being in love with an idea of being married with a big family. . When a woman is pregnant she needs help, and her husband is the person to help her, that is what love is. Children put a lot of stress onto a marriage.
In terms of criticism, things about me not smelling sweet as roses, not showering for long enough etc. We were moving 1,518 miles, to a new climate, a new city, and a new home in Phoenix, Arizona. He knows that, too, as there is very little aside from my vow to God and our child keeping me here. Rest in His Word and pray in faith that you will experience restoration in your marriage relationship. Trust that God gave you the spouse he did for a reason.
Reach out to a wise woman who can mentor you and just be there for you. This is the affair where she's playing cards online, correct? We also fall into daily routines that foster emotional distance—one person watches television in the evening while the other is on the computer, or one goes to bed at 9 pm and wakes at 5 am while the other goes to bed at midnight and wakes at 8 am. You need to make friends by doing volunteer work, joining book clubs or hiking groups, joining a church or spiritual organization, or taking continuing education classes. I wish u some solace and hope u r able 2 talk to someone professional or that u can have a support system 2 help u thru this trying time. People will disappoint us, unfriend us, forget to call us back, or move away.
. I changed some over those earlier years but not to a great extent. You may need to pull away, in order to protect yourself. Bt m feeling some thing is ending in me. Things are better but we still have to work at it.
He is a great provider but not a husband. After a few weeks, I do try more often. I am also about to enter a once-in-a-lifetime graduate program, so I'm at a point where I will have to forget that and get a low-paying job if I can or tread water in the marriage until the grad program is over in a few years. Unfortunately, this is a somewhat familiar conversation. Good look mate, it's not much consolation but you're not totally alone.