They Are Experts At Staying Calm Introverted lovers are low-key. A few hours apart is a significant commitment when you agree to meet each other. It does sound like you are doing most of the initiating and coordinating of your relationship but how forward is he in general? Something that made him think he could not be with you long term. I truly get the way his mind works. .
Something intimate but not too externally stimulating. They need a lot of time to reflect on things; therefore their responds are deliberate. They communicate with their conversational partners like laser beams—seeing into the soul of the speaker with intuition and clarity. Many introverts feel steam-rolled in this culture and have lost touch with their inherent introverted strengths. I think you are reading the situation correctly. At the same time, these men are such a pleasure because of their warm, thoughtful, gentle, and quietly bold nature.
Be kind and friendly but not overtly flirty. When you adjust to his needs for alone time, he will thrive, and you will benefit from his recharge time. Your needs and wants are valid as well. You will disagree on closeness requirements. The vocational hazards of psychoanalysis.
But Michael tends to feel odd and not totally engaged when speaking on his cellphone. There are a million articles and memes a day reinforcing that fact. It's natural for them to consider all options before they respond. I enjoy a high level of talking and texting with a significant other, and physical contact. It actually becomes work, which is draining. Love bombing is a bad sign for example. It is the time apart that kills me.
I hope she gives your relationship the chance to evolve. You may want to read the post I did two weeks ago: Did you ask him if he needs some time to himself? I felt like I did something wrong to make him pull away. And I liked what you said: I too think it would be a missed opportunity to not go deeper in this relationship. She will have to not take your space needs personally. I love your articles by the way. It starts when one or both of you feels like the relationship has a sense of permanence.
I loved reading and books from an early age. We use time to ourselves to renew. She has told me in the past she will push me away. Nights of lights in the city, simple bedrooms in country farmhouses. If you absolutely have to contact him again, even though it appears he is not interested in giving you closure, I would send a letter or email stating that you are seeking closure for yourself so that you can learn and move on. It is basically just disappointing to me that I learned about all of this after the relationship had ended instead of during the relationship when I could have better understood her needs, as I was clueless at the time.
But I do have a tendency to get nervous when she starts to become distant at times. There needs to be mutual nurturing of your temperaments. I just recently find out he is actually really shy. I am so impressed that you take the time to answer people individually. Though he laughs with me all the talk and is always super interested in the things I tell him about my life. He was very supportive and although he would miss me very much he knew I needed to be with my father.
And a month went by between my dates with this one without me initiating! Every relationship is unique but the main thing is to let your wife know you want her to grow and be her true self. Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I raised two children by myself as a very low-income single mom. Start your Spiritual Awakening journey now! Spontaneous and unplanned events are highly stressful and unwelcome for introverted people. Sensuality starts with the external but blooms within. I long for fluidity and ease in my intimate relationships.