She would cry for hours, days. Right now, it feels really awful. I suggested to her that she diet with me to encourage me to stick with it although that was a white lie, I wanted her to do it to lose weight too. You are with a person, not an imaginary friend or fantasy. I am particularly scared about how to open the conversation on the issue if that were to be the best way to approach. This is so hard on me — trying to work on the issues of my early life which is so deeply tied to my present … and my present has imploded.
She has easily put on 80 pounds. No she is wearing a size 18 and I am at a size 34. For a few weeks I thought it was low T or something wrong with me. There are too many people, not everyone can be happy. He has told me that he will give me what he can, but he has made it clear that he is limited in what he can offer. Was to wrapped up with the new arrival.
I am not now, nor have I ever been attracted to cellulite. What you said about self-esteem problems struck a cord with me. The moment you pull back the curtain on male sexuality, her insecurities will ruin any chance of negotiating a change. No passion, no new stuff, just …nothing…. Sex used to be so much fun and adventurous and wild.
Then i always think if it was really that bad for you then it would be used world wide. I feel like this is exactly how I feel. You know your wife best, or at least you should, so you will have to decide how best to handle the aftermath. We have sex maybe 8 times a year and dwindling , and I really dont care. .
This is a problem you hear a lot in reverse where the wife is not attracted to the husband , but this time its me not attracted to her. It is better for her to be in shape anyway. I met my wife when I was 33, 2 years divorced. I won't make that mistake again, and he won't make the mistake of holding in his feelings about it with his new woman, should it come up. I never felt even a flicker of sexual attraction to him.
Your tone is one of preaching at a woman who has reached out for help in s spirit of honesty. We got on really well and really clicked. She was a very nice guy. Men are generally very visual, so it must be hard to get past this. Take her to lunch, get a pedi with her or pick up the kids or make dinner while she pampers herself and does something to appease you.
I live in the downtown area of a major city, so I ended up selling my car, and now I walk everywhere - to work, to the grocery store, up and down stairs all day long, absolutely everywhere. In fact, no one person is ever going to be perfect. I have been as small as size four and as big as an 18. I've thought about posting for a long time and I've made many excuses for why things are so bad in our marriage. I met my future wife shortly after on the rebound. All of those bases have been covered.
Marriage is hard, with less than 50% of survival rates second marriage is less than 40%. Needing makeup, dental work, or a wardrobe overhaul? She asked me to put on some porn for her to get turned on to. Am I emotionally blocking it or is it just gone? I hope this simple comment helps someone as much as it's always helped me. I kept myself in a similar prison. He kept griping about the way the house looked, talking about how embarrassing it was, etc.